Emotions are a part of human nature. They make you human and they are the distinguishing features of human that separate them from other species. But sometimes the emotions can be difficult to control. And when this happens your behavior and conduct changes. Emotions play a crucial role in guiding your reactions towards other people and things.
Reasons may vary but almost every human being on the planet experiences a surge of emotions at least at one point or the other. Teens compromise majority of this group and so are elderly. The time around puberty often leads to unstable emotions which are difficult to cope with. In such cases your mental and social life is at risk of derangement. We will guide you through on how to deal with difficult emotions.
- Get to know your emotions:
Emotions can be positive or negative. Positive emotions include joy, happiness, contentment, gratitude, and they make you feel good about yourself. But negative emotions like sadness, loneliness and sense of dissociation are difficult to handle. They are unavoidable because they come with a constant sense of physical and mental pain. They have negative impact on your life and your behavior. But they can be managed easily if you follow along. So first and foremost step is to identify your emotions.
- Do not try too hard!
Negative emotions come with a constant lingering ache. And it might feel apt to suppress them. But it does not help. Instead, you should try to regulate your emotions rather than repressing them. Accept them as a part of your nature and then work on regulating them one by one. It will take some time, but it is worth it!
- Accept your emotions:
It is crucial that you realize that what you are feeling has not been inculcated from any outside source. They emerged inside you and they are a part of your being. Accept these emotions and look beyond the horizon to regulate them and keep hope alive.
- Do not blame yourself:
Never think that what you are feeling is because you are bad or not worthy. Trust me we humans do not have control over our hormones, do we? So, get that heaviness out of your chest and look to counter these negative emotions with the positive ones.
- Build positive emotions:
One way you can counter negative thoughts and unstable bursts of emotions is by building positive emotions. Play the sport you like, do the things that you like, make that salad that makes you feel good, talk to your friends, adopt a pet that you always wanted, write that piece of paper that you left unfinished last time. This way you will feel positive about yourself and it will help you in regulating your emotions effectively.
Meditation can help you think clearly and make you aware of your emotions. When you sit and take deep breaths, it will calm your mind and soul and relax your body. It will help you identify your emotions and gives you a feeling of gratitude and happiness. Meditation will make your sleep cycle regular, and this will in turn regulate your emotional cycle.
- Seek help from friends and family:
Sometimes all we need is a little reassurance from our loved ones. Talk to someone close to you about how you have been feeling lately. Venting out emotions can bring the calm to your storm and it relieves the chaos going around in your mind.
- Contact a counsellor / therapist:
Sometimes, you try everything, but still, you cannot shake a tough emotion. If you find yourself stuck in feelings of sadness or worry for more than a couple of weeks, or if you feel so upset that you think you might hurt yourself or other people, you may need extra help. It is better to take help in the beginning rather than waiting for your exhaustion and then going for it. Why suffer while you can just be as good as you were before the emotional storm hit you?
A counsellor can offer you compassionate help. The therapist will help you out in coping with your unstable emotions without judging you. They are qualified to bring the best emotions out of yourself and make you feel positive. The Counsellor will help you in down regulating negative and unstable emotions and at the same time they will teach you how you can up regulate positive emotions.
Identify your emotions and accept them as a part of your life. Do not blame or degrade yourself rather be positive and seek help from a qualified counsellor. Do not given in to bad coping mechanisms like drugs, alcohol etc. Develop positive attitude and you will be fine!